3 Ways to Hack Your ADHD Brain and Boost Confidence with Coach Evelyn Vieira
If you’ve ever made a small mistake and instantly felt yourself slipping into a shame spiral, you know how heavy it can get. That inner critic starts shouting… “You messed up again. You’ll never get this right.” Confidence drops, and suddenly you’re stuck in guilt, self-sabotage, and overwhelm.
Before we dive in, I’ve got a resource that goes hand in hand with this episode 💡 my Ultimate Guide to Managing Overwhelm. Shame and overwhelm love to tag team our ADHD brains, but this guide gives you practical ways to calm the chaos, reset your thinking, and take your power back 👉 RyanMayerCoaching.com
This week on the More Than ADHD™ Podcast I sat down with Coach Evelyn Vieira of Cycle Breaker Parenting to talk about what she calls the “shame game.” And even more importantly, how to WIN it. Evelyn shares three brain friendly ways to stop shame in its tracks and rebuild confidence for yourself and for your kids.
Here’s what you’ll learn in Episode 34:
✨ The clear difference between guilt and shame and why mixing them up is dangerous
✨ How to “name it to tame it” by giving your inner critic a silly name so it loses its grip
✨ Why building a badass list or “trophy room” can reset your confidence instantly
✨ How to replace judgments assumptions and labels with curiosity neutrality and facts
✨ Why toxic positivity doesn’t work and how to climb just one rung up the ladder instead
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. I recently wrote about it in Why Do Adults With ADHD Carry So Much Shame Top 4 Ways to UN Shame Adult ADHD. So many of us grow up believing we are the mistake instead of just making one. Evelyn’s tools build right on top of that idea, showing you how to separate shame from your identity and step out of the spiral in real time.
And once you’ve stopped shame in its tracks, you can rewire your brain to think differently moving forward. That’s exactly what I shared in 7 Ways Affirmations Help Rewire the ADHD Brain. Affirmations help us lay down new neural pathways 💡 When you combine them with Evelyn’s strategies like naming your inner critic or creating a badass list, you start to replace self sabotage with self belief and confidence.
💬 One of my favorite lines from Evelyn: “It’s not that you aren’t good enough. It’s that you aren’t YOU enough.” That hit me hard, and I know it will resonate with so many of you too.
🎧 Listen now to Episode 34: How to Win the Shame Game 3 Ways to Hack Your ADHD Brain and Boost Confidence with Coach Evelyn Vieira.
