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Do you feel like you disappoint your partner on the regular? Feeling shame and guilt for not being able to get home to spend the time with family that you desire? You\u2019re not alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I have been there, and it is honestly one of the toughest parts about having ADHD. It is hard to stomach. Despite trying my best, I feel that I let my wife down. I get sucked into the ADHD spiral of negativity. It is tough to overcome those strong ADHD emotions, especially when the person most important to you has SO MUCH EVIDENCE to back up the frustration. This struggle is so very real for me and so many of my clients. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
While living with ADHD can certainly present unique challenges, especially when it comes to fulfilling roles as fathers and husbands – don\u2019t lose hope! With the right motivation, we are capable of anything! With intentional steps, I am confident that men with ADHD can enhance their relationships and family dynamics! Let\u2019s break down why the challenges exist and discuss three simple steps to guide you on this journey towards a more peaceful homestead. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
What specific challenges do family men with ADHD face in family life?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Men with ADHD may struggle with impulsivity and easily getting distracted. This can impact their ability to stay focused on family responsibilities, leading to missed cues, forgotten commitments, or impulsive reactions that may affect family dynamics. Just recently I impulsively planned to wrap up my workday early and drive across town to help my sister move without talking to my wife. However, I completely forgot that it\u2019s my responsibility to get my son off of the bus! Fortunately, I was able to make other arrangements before my son was left stranded at the bus stop. \ud83d\ude8f #CloseCall #NearMiss #ADHDisReal<\/p>\n\n\n\n
ADHD often involves difficulties in time management and organization. Keeping up with family schedules, planning activities, and maintaining a routine can be challenging, affecting the stability and predictability that families often rely on. Time blindness affects me daily. It can be overwhelming to plan for a family event. For me, and many other ADHD men, getting everyone out of the door on time can seem impossible. To make matters worse, the same struggles happen time and time again, making it seem like we don\u2019t care or want to change our ways. These frustrating patterns lead to resentment from our partners, confusion from our children, and only further the feelings of shame and guilt that come with being late. Like the (ONE<\/em>) time when my wife was working and I was in charge of getting me and the kids to church. \ud83d\ude44 Not only<\/em> did we arrive super late, but we had to park 4x further away than usual. The kids have never<\/em> let me forget that one! \ud83e\udd26\u200d\u2642\ufe0f <\/p>\n\n\n\n ADHD can have a negative influence on communication skills as well. Men with ADHD may find it challenging to express themselves clearly or listen attentively, which can lead to misunderstandings and strained relationships within the family. Many times, I don\u2019t even want to bring up my opposing opinion to my wife because it\u2019s easier to just go with what her plan is, rather than trying to explain my thoughts. Does that help my mental wellness? Nope. Can that build resentment and harbor unhealthy feelings? You bet!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Being part of a community that accepts for just the way you are is the first step to owning your ADHD. Knowing what your weaknesses are makes it easier to ask for support in those areas – especially when you know that the other guys in the group struggle with some of the same things you do. On the flip side, learning to lean into your strengths will help you excel, and regain some of your confidence. One of the most powerful \ud83d\udcaa aspects of being part of an ADHD Men\u2019s Group is the accountability and encouragement that comes along with it. Above all, know that other ADHD dads and husbands are going through similar struggles will help you to finally feel understood, maybe for the first time in your life. We are stronger together. <\/p>\n\n\n\nStruggles with Communication (Yes, Of Course I\u2019m Listening!)<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Overcome Dad and Husband Guilt by Utilizing These Simple Steps<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Join ADHD Group Coaching for Support and Accountability<\/h3>\n\n\n\n