Are you struggling in silence with your mental health? Overwhelmed, stressed, anxious, hard on yourself, drowning in negative self-talk… but keep it hidden?
The ADHD struggle is real. In today’s fast-paced world, mental health is finally getting the recognition and attention that it deserves. Yet, despite the progress, men with ADHD often avoid seeking mental health assistance when needed. Societal expectations around masculinity combined with common myths keep many men from getting the support they need. But it doesn’t have to stay this way.
Do you struggle with hitting deadlines, managing time, prioritizing, managing finances, and managing anger? If so, you may have ADHD…
Why Do Men with ADHD Avoid Mental Health Help?
1️⃣ “Real Men Don’t Need Help”: From a young age, many boys are told to be “tough” and not show vulnerability. By adulthood, asking for help can feel like a failure to live up to the “strong and silent” ideal. This misconception makes getting mental health help seem unnecessary or even embarrassing.
2️⃣ Fear of Judgment: I personally think this is the most prevalent factor. Men often fear how others perceive them if they admit they struggle. Worrying about what family, friends, or colleagues might think can keep them from reaching out, even though mental health struggles are more common than many realize.
3️⃣ Concerns About Cost and Time: Mental Health appointments can be expensive and time-consuming, especially for those with demanding jobs or tight budgets. Many men may hesitate to prioritize their mental health over what they see as more pressing obligations, like work or family. Well all that has changed with AI Coach Ryan. Affordable and available 24/7.
4️⃣ A Lack of Male Role Models Who Openly Seek Help: Men are rarely shown examples of other men openly discussing therapy or coaching. Without visible role models, it’s difficult for them to picture themselves receiving services for mental health.
Debunking the Myths About ADHD Coaching for Men
Let’s set the record straight on some common misconceptions:
- Myth #1: ADHD Coaching Is Only for “Serious” Problems
ADHD Coaching isn’t just for crises or severe mental health issues. It’s a tool to improve overall mental well-being, navigate life changes, and even boost personal and professional growth. There’s no “right time” to start—it’s about taking steps toward a healthier mindset.
- Myth #2: Coaching Takes Forever and Yields Little Benefit
ADHD Coaching doesn’t have to be a long, drawn-out process. When the client is willing to put effort into the coaching framework, such as the Ryan Mayer Coaching’s Conquer Your ADHD™️ System, the 4 steps yield excellent results. Coaching sessions are solution-focused, designed to be short-term, and provide actionable strategies quickly.
- Myth #3: Coaches Just Listen Without Providing Real Solutions
While active listening is part of coaching, a quality, certified ADHD coach will help you look within yourself to provide practical tools and strategies. Coaching is collaborative, and completely free of judgment. You will create your goals and work to reach them. Coach is there to support you every step of the way.
- Myth #4: ADHD Coaching Makes You Weak or Dependent
Seeking ADHD Coaching is an act of courage, not weakness. It shows a willingness to confront challenges rather than avoid them. How can someone expect to “tame it”, if they are never willing to “name it” (by talking about it) in the first place! Coaching empowers people to become more self-aware and resilient, fostering independence, not dependency.
How Men with ADHD Can Change the Narrative
1. Encourage Open Conversations
Talking openly about mental health—whether at home, work, or with friends—normalizes it. Men are more likely to seek help if they see others doing the same. By starting conversations, we create a supportive environment that encourages openness.
Promote Positive Role Models
Seeing successful men openly discuss their mental health journey can make a huge difference. Whether it’s public figures, colleagues, or friends, positive role models show that coaching is a normal, beneficial part of life. All top-performing athletes have a coach! Many top-performing business people have a coach.
Educate on the Variety of Coaching Options
ADHD Coaching isn’t one-size-fits-all. The two main types are one-on-one coaching and group coaching, with a maximum of 10 people. Men may be more comfortable in an all-men’s group. Ryan Mayer Coaching specializes in this group, with many happy clients. Understanding different approaches makes it easier to find the right fit.
Challenge Stigmas and Misconceptions
Actively countering the belief that coaching is “weak” or “only for serious problems” helps break down barriers. Remind the men in your life that coaching is a practical tool for growth, just like going to the gym or learning a new skill.
Make Mental Health Resources Accessible
Affordable, accessible options make coaching more approachable. Join a free support group such as the Ryan Mayer Coaching Digital Community, where you can find support in a judgment-free zone!
“Do You Even Lift, Bro?” – It’s Time to Rethink Strength
True strength lies in facing challenges, not ignoring them. ADHD coaching offers tools and strategies to help men lead healthier, happier lives, both mentally and emotionally. This Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month, let’s work to break down the barriers and encourage more men to embrace ADHD Coaching as a valuable part of personal growth.
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